2023 Consent Issues dear author letter

[marmolita]

Hello author! My specific prompts are in my signup but here's some general info on my likes and interests if you want it! You can also feel free to browse my dreamwidth for letters I've written for other previous exchanges (I only barely changed this from last year's lol).

I'm generally more into the psychological side of dubcon/noncon rather than the physical side -- specifically stuff like shame/humiliation/guilt about experiencing physical arousal while not wanting to or not consenting to, power/powerlessness (both the aggressor enjoying that they can force the victim to be aroused, and the victim feeling powerless to stop what's happening), etc. I like dubcon where the victim is aroused because it allows more exploration of that powerlessness and humiliation. I'm not as much into like total violent painful noncon. I prefer for fic to have a hopeful or at least ambiguous ending, rather than a full-on bad end. Perhaps a better way to say it is that I don't want the characters' lives to be completely destroyed by what happened. I'm fine with them having trauma afterward they will need to work through, and I'm fine with a full-on happy ending too if you want to go for the lightest version of dubcon.

All of that said, these are just preferences, and if they're not to your taste then as long as it's not something on my DNW list I'll be happy with whatever you write!

Here are some things I particularly enjoy:

• they have to fuck because Reasons, regardless of the reasons. Job duty, bad guys made them do it, magic, sex pollen, heat, rut, biological imperative to submit/dominate, for a spell/ritual, for soul bond reasons, etc. etc.
• slut-shamey humiliation, for example, the aggressor forcing the victim into arousal and then being like "look how much you want it, you're such a slut" (though I prefer to avoid the word "bitch")
• along those same lines, any sort of degrading praise is A+++
• performative sex -- they have to fuck in public/on camera/etc. because a third party wants to see or they have to provide proof they did it or something, also voyeurism/exhibitionism in general
• dirty talk
• manhandling
• face-sitting, if F/M
• femdom
• gangbangs/group sex/orgies
• bondage/collars/leashes/gags
• overstimulation, multiple orgasms
• orgasm delay
• making the other person beg/ask nicely for it
• crawling
• frottage
• masturbation
• flogging/impact type things
• for incest/pseudo-incest ships, I love a good focus on knowing it's wrong and not being able to stop having those feelings

Some dislikes (they're not full-on squicks, just general dislikes):

• creampie
• excessive come eating
• food-related kinks
• feminization if the feminization involves implying that being feminine is a bad thing
• gagging (like gagging on a dick, not a gag that you put on someone's mouth, those are fine)
• spitting
• drug abuse
• the word "bitch"

DNW: Painful sex, permanent/serious injury, ageplay of any sort (including daddy kink), excrement, piss in mouth/ass/other orifice, vomit, spitting in mouth, anything related to pregnancy/breeding/lactation, infant/child death, animal cruelty, come inflation/belly bulge, characters dying as a result of xcon, intentional infidelity, ass to mouth without washing in between, gendered insults for genitals (e.g. calling a guy's ass a "pussy" as an insult), genderbends of any variety, entirely hopeless/unhappy endings