nonconathon 2024 dear creator letter

[marmolita]

Hello creator! I am very excited to see what you come up with and I'm sure I will love it! Fandom-specific prompts are in my signup so I won't reproduce them here, but this letter contains my general likes/dislikes. As always with these exchanges, as long as you avoid the DNW's and include one of my requested tags it's all good! This letter bears remarkable similarity to ones I've done for previous exchanges because I mostly copied and pasted it, so if you want to look through my dreamwidth for previous letters feel free.

I'm generally more into the psychological side of dubcon/noncon rather than the physical side -- specifically stuff like shame/humiliation/guilt about experiencing physical arousal while not wanting to or not consenting to, power/powerlessness (both the aggressor enjoying that they can force the victim to be aroused, and the victim feeling powerless to stop what's happening), etc. I like dubcon/noncon where the victim is aroused because it allows more exploration of that powerlessness and humiliation. I'm not as much into like total violent painful noncon (though if . I prefer for fic to have a hopeful or at least ambiguous ending, rather than a full-on bad end. Perhaps a better way to say it is that I don't want the characters' lives to be completely destroyed by what happened. I'm fine with them having trauma afterward they will need to work through, and I'm fine with a full-on happy ending too if you want to go for the lightest dubcon version of noncon.

All of that said, these are just preferences, and if they're not to your taste then as long as it's not something on my DNW list I'll be happy with whatever you write!

Here are some things I particularly enjoy:

• they have to fuck because Reasons, regardless of the reasons. Job duty, bad guys made them do it, magic, sex pollen, heat, rut, biological imperative to submit/dominate, for a spell/ritual, for soul bond reasons, to prevent a worse fate, to lure aggressor into complacency for an escape attempt, etc. etc.
• if they have to fuck for Reasons (e.g. Something Made Them Do It), then I love when the characters perhaps had feelings they were denying and now they feel even worse about having the feelings because the aggressor has now violated the person they had feelings for, or has had to express feelings they wanted to keep hidden
• slut-shame-y or slut-praise-y humiliation, for example, the aggressor forcing the victim into arousal and then being like "look how much you want it, you're such a slut" (though I prefer to avoid the word "bitch")
• along those same lines, any sort of degrading praise is A+++
• performative sex -- they have to fuck in public/on camera/etc. because a third party wants to see or they have to provide proof they did it or something
• voyeurism/exhibitionism in general
• dirty talk
• manhandling
• face-sitting, if F/M
• femdom, if F/M
• gangbangs/group sex/orgies
• bondage/collars/leashes/gags
• overstimulation, multiple orgasms
• orgasm delay
• making the other person beg/ask nicely for it
• crawling
• frottage
• coming in pants/through clothes
• masturbation
• desperation (in any way -- desperate to come, desperate not to come, desperate for sex like in sex pollen or omegaverse heat, also omorashi if you want to go there as long as it doesn't hit my DNW about piss in various orifices)
• flogging/impact type things
• for incest/pseudo-incest ships, I love a good focus on knowing it's wrong and not being able to stop having those feelings
• mind control/mindfuck/mind rape, especially if the controlled person either realizes they're being controlled partway through the act or is aware the whole time but can't do anything about it (controller person can be aggressor or victim)
• guilt over attraction to someone you should not be attracted to (e.g. because incest, age gap, power differential, etc.)
• add-on AUs like omegaverse, BDSM au, other things where they're still in the canon verse but it's different
• sleazy sexy villains
• dehumanization but in the sense of being used as a toy or as a weapon, NOT being treated like an animal
• sex toys under clothes
• face slapping
• breathplay/choking
• backstories of underage sex work or similar abuse
• physically attractive characters having it implied that their good looks mean that they ought to be used for sex/that sex is the most useful thing about them (goes with the degrading praise and humiliation and such)

Some dislikes (they're not full-on squicks, just general dislikes):

• creampie
• excessive come eating
• food-related kinks
• feminization if the feminization involves implying that being feminine is a bad thing
• gagging (like gagging on a dick, not a gag that you put on someone's mouth, those are fine)
• spitting
• drug abuse
• the word "bitch"

General DNW:

• animal cruelty
• children or animals dying
• genderbends/gender play of any variety
• entirely hopeless/unhappy endings
• underage below age 15, with special exception for Young Justice prompt as described in my signup, and it's fine to mention that a character who is now older may have had sex (or been raped) when they were younger, I just don't want to read detailed sex with a pre-pubescent character or where the focus is on the person's youth
• non-canon-related AU (e.g. historical AU, coffeeshop AU, things where the universe of canon doesn't exist)
• drug or alcohol abuse (casual alcohol use is fine)
• intentional infidelity/cheating (poly is fine though, or if the infidelity is nonconsensual that's okay)
• issuefic
• use of the word "bitch" as an insult/derogatory term

Smut DNW:

• unaroused victim (the victim should physically get off please)
• ageplay (including daddy kink)
• anything to do with pregnancy/breeding kink/lactation
• painful sex (like where the penetration is painful; I'm fine with S&M stuff like knifeplay or flogging being painful)
• permanent/serious injury
• excrement
• piss in mouth/ass/other orifice
• vomit
• spitting in mouth/on genitals
• come inflation/belly bulge
• ass to mouth without washing in between
• gendered insults for genitals (e.g. calling a guy's ass a "pussy" as an insult)
• feederism
• bestiality

Not all of my lists apply to every fandom but hopefully you can pick and choose what makes sense. And of course, per the signup, you only need to match on one ship and avoid the DNW's and it's all good!!